COMMITMENT: Backbone Of Successful Marriages
Dear Reader,
I thank God for the privilege to bring His Word your way today. I pray that you will be mightily blessed in Jesus’ name!
Commitment is the backbone of any successful relationship, marriage and family inclusive. It is the adhesive of every marriage. When commitment is lacking in the relationship between husband and wife, the chances of that home surviving is very slim.
Therefore, to enjoy family success, you must be committed both to the institution of marriage and to your spouse. God has joined you together, but you must be so committed both to the institution and your spouse that nothing is allowed to put you asunder (Mark 10:9).
What then is commitment? The Oxford Dictionary defines commitment as “an engagement or obligation that restricts freedom of action”. In other words, there are some things you cannot do by reason of your commitment. That is why Apostle Paul said in 1 Corinthians 6:12: All things are lawful unto me, but all things are not expedient.
Commitment makes you choose the expedient above the lawful. It makes you forgo some things that you like, take pleasure in or even sometimes, rights and privileges that are lawfully yours may have to be forfeited in the interest of the family.
As a man, for instance, commitment demands that you place the interest of your family above your own. God has programmed you as the breadwinner of the family, so, before you consider all that you need, you must first and foremost make adequate provisions for your family’s well-being. So also, as a wife in the home, no matter the lure of your social status, commitment demands that you pay top priority attention to the members of your family, especially your spouse, before yourself or your peers.
Commitment also demands that you discipline your thoughts to conform to the Word of God. Thought you know will cause your family hurt, until you overcome it. A man once lost his family and destiny to a lousy thought he failed to tame for 25 years. Instead of casting down the imaginations and fantasies of his heart, he constantly indulged in them, until they became an irreversible reality in his life. Like a roller coaster, his thoughts gradually took on flesh and before he could put a stop to them, his entire destiny was cast before the pigs and crushed under feet. He lost his family and destiny for lack of commitment.
Again God’s Word says that marriage is honourable – that is, respectable. Marriage, as an institution established by God, is perfect, but the individuals in it are not. People change as they grow, but marriage is constant. It is an unchanging institution. In order to build a successful marriage, therefore, those in it must learn to honour marriage itself. This is the secret! You can get so committed to the institution of marriage that you can cope with the imperfection of the parties involved. Commitment overlooks the physical changes in your spouse, sometimes the changing fortunes in your finances, etc.
As a single person, before you agree to marry anyone, find out how committed he/she is to God and to marriage. It is the level of his/her commitment to God that will determine how committed he/she will be to your marriage. Are you married to someone who is not committed to God, and now you are wondering why he/she is not committed to your marriage? He cannot be, because the foundation is faulty. He needs to be “sold out” to God first!
Nevertheless, all hope is not lost. If you make a decision today to become committed to your marriage and family, God’s grace will be available to you to establish your desire.
Grace is only available to the redeemed of the Lord. So, if you are not born again, there is no way you can be committed to God and you can never be committed to your marriage. You need to give your life to Christ. Are you set for it? Why not say this prayer of faith from your heart:
Dear Reader,
I thank God for the privilege to bring His Word your way today. I pray that you will be mightily blessed in Jesus’ name!
Commitment is the backbone of any successful relationship, marriage and family inclusive. It is the adhesive of every marriage. When commitment is lacking in the relationship between husband and wife, the chances of that home surviving is very slim.
Therefore, to enjoy family success, you must be committed both to the institution of marriage and to your spouse. God has joined you together, but you must be so committed both to the institution and your spouse that nothing is allowed to put you asunder (Mark 10:9).
What then is commitment? The Oxford Dictionary defines commitment as “an engagement or obligation that restricts freedom of action”. In other words, there are some things you cannot do by reason of your commitment. That is why Apostle Paul said in 1 Corinthians 6:12: All things are lawful unto me, but all things are not expedient.
Commitment makes you choose the expedient above the lawful. It makes you forgo some things that you like, take pleasure in or even sometimes, rights and privileges that are lawfully yours may have to be forfeited in the interest of the family.
God’s Word says: Follow peace with all men, and holiness, without which no man shall see the Lord (Hebrews 12:14).
Commitment, therefore, demands that you promote whatever it will take
for you to ensure that peace reigns perpetually in your marriage.
Whatever shortcomings your spouse or other members of your household may
have, commitment demands that you find a way to cope with them. You
may even have to forgo some things you really enjoy, just to ensure
peace is maintained in your home.As a man, for instance, commitment demands that you place the interest of your family above your own. God has programmed you as the breadwinner of the family, so, before you consider all that you need, you must first and foremost make adequate provisions for your family’s well-being. So also, as a wife in the home, no matter the lure of your social status, commitment demands that you pay top priority attention to the members of your family, especially your spouse, before yourself or your peers.
Commitment also demands that you discipline your thoughts to conform to the Word of God. Thought you know will cause your family hurt, until you overcome it. A man once lost his family and destiny to a lousy thought he failed to tame for 25 years. Instead of casting down the imaginations and fantasies of his heart, he constantly indulged in them, until they became an irreversible reality in his life. Like a roller coaster, his thoughts gradually took on flesh and before he could put a stop to them, his entire destiny was cast before the pigs and crushed under feet. He lost his family and destiny for lack of commitment.
Again God’s Word says that marriage is honourable – that is, respectable. Marriage, as an institution established by God, is perfect, but the individuals in it are not. People change as they grow, but marriage is constant. It is an unchanging institution. In order to build a successful marriage, therefore, those in it must learn to honour marriage itself. This is the secret! You can get so committed to the institution of marriage that you can cope with the imperfection of the parties involved. Commitment overlooks the physical changes in your spouse, sometimes the changing fortunes in your finances, etc.
As a single person, before you agree to marry anyone, find out how committed he/she is to God and to marriage. It is the level of his/her commitment to God that will determine how committed he/she will be to your marriage. Are you married to someone who is not committed to God, and now you are wondering why he/she is not committed to your marriage? He cannot be, because the foundation is faulty. He needs to be “sold out” to God first!
Nevertheless, all hope is not lost. If you make a decision today to become committed to your marriage and family, God’s grace will be available to you to establish your desire.
Grace is only available to the redeemed of the Lord. So, if you are not born again, there is no way you can be committed to God and you can never be committed to your marriage. You need to give your life to Christ. Are you set for it? Why not say this prayer of faith from your heart:
Dear Lord, I come to You today. I am a
sinner. Forgive me my sins. Cleanse me with Your precious Blood. I
accept You as my Lord and Saviour. Now I know I am born again!
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