HOW TO MAKE MARRIAGE WORKS 1

HOW TO MAKE MARRIAGE WORK


Marriage is the coming together of a man and woman for harmonious living. It is a covenant relationship between two people of opposite sex, both of them seeking to give and receive satisfaction for their healthy needs and desires.

As a covenant relationship, marriage is a contract agreement between a man and a woman on one side and God on the other side. The covenant has terms of agreement; each party has a part to play. And when this is done, the covenant attracts blessings but when the terms are broken it attracts curses to the defaulters. When a couple enters into this covenant agreement, they are enrolled into the institution of marriage.

It is good at this point to mention that no matter how long you live with someone of opposite sex, you are not married until you take the necessary steps to legalize your relationship, according to the law and customs of the land and the commandment of God.

Just as a pet that has lived long in a home cannot be called a child, so also a man and woman that have lived together, no matter the number of years, cannot automatically be called husband and wife, except they obey the guiding laws of the marriage institution. It is respect for the institution of marriage that makes it work.

Marriage can be likened to a school where you begin to acclimatize yourself to a new environment and receive a completely new orientation to life. In this institution, there are basic rules you must obey.

One thing that is common to all institutions of learning is the writing of examinations at specific periods, with timetables which enables students prepare ahead. So also in the marriage institution; couples undergo examinations from time to time, the only difference in this case is that there are no timetables. So, the best way couples can pass such exams us to live ready for any challenge that might come up at anytime. They must also embrace sincerity as the rule of the game. That means there should be no ‘hide and seek’ because God created the man and his wife to be naked and yet unashamed (Gen.2:25)

Another thing about the institution of marriage is that there is no date of graduation; it is a life-long venture. Unfortunately, in our societies today, we have many cases of divorce; people jumped into marriage and jumped out again. It should not be so! Marriage is for life, once a couple is married, they must remain committed to the covenant and observe all the guiding rules of marriage. None is permitted to ‘break the hedge’ or do anything against the success of the union. Once you get enrolled into the institution of marriage, it requires the involvement of your spirit, soul and body. There Word of God says,

For this cause shall a man leave his father and mother and shall be joined unto his wife and they shall become one flesh. – Ephesians 5:31

Until you live for a cause you remain under a curse. And whatever you live for, you give your life completely to it. Marriage is a good cause and it is worth living for. No matter the bad experiences of other people, marriage is good. It was designed to make life great and complete.