POWER OF COMMUNICATION

. THE POWER OF COMMUNICATION


Communication is the music of marriage. When a relationship is void of communication, it becomes dead. It is best described as a ‘graveyard.’

For instance, when a cell phone is not in use and it is switched off. A caller cannot get through and the owner does not know that someone is trying to reach him. But as soon as the phone is switched on, calls begin to come in. Any relationship void of communication is like a switched-off cell phone.

Keep the line of communication open in your home; don’t let your spouse keep doing the talking.

When you talk don’t attack, avoid part answers. It is a two-way process. When one person becomes incommunicado, the relationship is obviously heading for a collapse! You can see Satan setting in. That is to say, you are living outside the will of God. You are debarring yourselves of God’s blessing. Of what use is a relationship without communication? It is simply useless because communication is a process that is essentially sharing. It is a mutual exchange between two or more persons.

The most important thing in any relationship is communication. Without communication you cannot build a long lasting family life. Most spouses don’t communicate with each other; they merely talk, just to bare their minds on issues bothering the family.

How to Establish Good Understanding





One of the ingredients you need for good understanding in marriage is a right attitude. Your attitude determines your altitude in life. When you have a positive attitude your marriage relationship will work.



 You also need cooperation. Always cooperate with your spouse in all matters. Many couples live as if their input in their marriage relationship is not needed. No marriage can last like that; the cooperation of both the man and the woman is needed to make it work. The Bible says, “Work out your own salvation with fear and trembling” (Phil 2:12). In other words, marriage must be worked out, it is a personal responsibility. You don’t watch a stable marriage happen; you work it out.

As a Christian you must cultivate a good character to be able to win in marriage. You must covet the very nature of Christ and make it your lifestyle. Don’t make lying your way of life, let the fear of God always be in you.

Lastly, one other thing that enhances good understanding between married couples is submission. And the submission is two-way because the Bible says:

Submitting yourselves one to another in the fear of God – Eph 5:21

Just as the woman is expected to submit to her husband, the husband ought also to submit to his wife giving her the respect and honour due to her. The husband is the head of the home, he is the head of the home, he is the leader while his wife and other members of the family are his followers. But as a good leader, he must know the importance of team work; each member must be allowed to function effectively in his or her area, so that none is dormant, but rather every one contributes adequately to the well being of the home.

A wife should not attempt to take over the place of the husband in the home, but rather respect him as the head of and always obey his instructions. What most women don’t understand is that they can easily win the respect and love of their husband if they learn to quietly accept their husbands’ decision even when not convenient.

Also, the husband should respect the wives, ideas and suggestions of his wife as it has to do with their relationship ad the home, especially in children and kitchen affairs. This is the woman’s area so the husband should give her a free hand and allow her to handle it. Even if she does know how to do it, he should give her to opportunity to learn.

For a couple to respect and submit to each other, they need humility. When you refuse to submit to your spouse, whether you are a man or a woman, you are simply exhibiting pride. And the bible says, “God resists the proud.” But when you embrace humility, you receive more grace from Him (James 4:6).

Lastly, relationship is built over time, it does not happen instantly. This is where the issue of patience comes in. To establish good understanding in your marriage relationship, you need patience because you require some time to study your spouse in order to make the necessary adjustments that enhance harmonious coexistence. Patience means appreciating the past while expecting a better future (Heb. 10:35).